One of the biggest blocks to experiencing compassion – whether to ourselves (self-compassion) or from other people – is shame. There’s lots of research that we and our colleagues have been involved in which has shown that higher levels of shame are associated with (amongst other things) low self-esteem, and higher self-criticism, rumination, depression and anxiety.
One important type of shame is called external shame – this is when we have a sense that other people think and feel negatively about us.
Are you interested in finding out whether you’re sensitive to external shame? If so, take our short quiz to find out.
Note: None of your data or responses to the questionnaire will be identifiable, stored, used or processed by us in any way
This questionnaire is based upon the Goss, K., Gilbert, P., & Allan, S. (1994). An exploration of shame measures—I: The other as Shamer scale. Personality and Individual differences, 17(5), 713-717.
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Your scores are in the LOW range
Well done for completing this questionnaire. Your scores were in the low range, which suggests that you have lower levels of external shame and do not feel other people think and feel about you negatively
To help maintain this positive position, it might be helpful to practice cultivating your compassionate mind.
If that sounds helpful, at Balanced Minds, we’ve got some options that might be useful:
– Online Self-Compassion Course: https://balancedminds.com/online-self-compassion-course/
– Compassionate Mind Training Course: https://balancedminds.com/compassionate-mind-training-8-week-course/
– The Self-Compassion App: https://balancedminds.com/the-self-compassion-app/
And of course, if you’d like to meet with one of our therapists, they are all experienced in helping people to strengthen their compassionate minds: https://balancedminds.com/book-a-therapy-session/
If you’d like to keep on learning about yourself, take a look at other questionnaires here: To take further questionnaires, take a look here: https://balancedminds.com/questionnaires/
Your scores are in the MEDIUM range
Well done for completing this questionnaire. Your scores were in the medium range, which suggests that you can moderate levels of external shame, and sometimes have a sense that other people think and feel about you negatively
Because we know that high levels of shame are associated with a range of psychological difficulties like low mood, anxiety and self-criticism, it might be useful to consider how to reduce this. One evidenced based way to do this is through learning how to treat yourself with self-compassion when things are difficult
If that sounds helpful, at Balanced Minds, we’ve got some options that might be useful:
– Online Self-Compassion Course: https://balancedminds.com/online-self-compassion-course/
– Compassionate Mind Training Course: https://balancedminds.com/compassionate-mind-training-8-week-course/
– The Self-Compassion App: https://balancedminds.com/the-self-compassion-app/
And of course, if you’d like to meet with one of our therapists, they are all experienced in helping people to strengthen their compassionate minds: https://balancedminds.com/book-a-therapy-session/
If you’d like to keep on learning about yourself, take a look at other questionnaires here: To take further questionnaires, take a look here: https://balancedminds.com/questionnaires/
Your scores are in the HIGH range
Well done for completing this questionnaire. Your scores were in the high range, which suggests that you can high levels of external shame and have a sense that other people think and feel about you negatively
Because we know that high levels of shame are associated with a range of psychological difficulties like low mood, anxiety and self-criticism, it might be useful to consider how to reduce this. One evidenced based way to do this is through learning how to treat yourself with self-compassion when things are difficult
If that sounds helpful, at Balanced Minds, we’ve got some options that might be useful:
– Online Self-Compassion Course: https://balancedminds.com/online-self-compassion-course/
– Compassionate Mind Training Course: https://balancedminds.com/compassionate-mind-training-8-week-course/
– The Self-Compassion App: https://balancedminds.com/the-self-compassion-app/
And of course, if you’d like to meet with one of our therapists, they are all experienced in helping people to strengthen their compassionate minds: https://balancedminds.com/book-a-therapy-session/
If you’d like to keep on learning about yourself, take a look at other questionnaires here: To take further questionnaires, take a look here: https://balancedminds.com/questionnaires/
1. I feel other people see me as not good enough
Never Almost always
2. I think that other people look down on me
Never Almost always
3. Other people put me down a lot
Never Almost always
4. I feel insecure about others opinions of me
Never Almost always
5. Other people see me as not measuring up to them
Never Almost always
6. Other people see me as small and insignificant
Never Almost always
7. Other people see me as somehow defective as a person
Never Almost always
8. People see me as unimportant compared to others
Never Almost always
9. Other people look for my faults
Never Almost always
10. People see me as striving for perfection but being unable
to reach my own standards
Never Almost always
11. I think others are able to see my defects
Never Almost always
12. Others are critical or punishing when I make a mistake
Never Almost always
13. People distance themselves from me when I make mistakes
Never Almost always
14. Other people always remember my mistakes
Never Almost always
15. Others see me as fragile
Never Almost always
16. Others see me as empty and unfulfilled
Never Almost always
17. Others think there is something missing in me
Never Almost always
18. Other people think I have lost control over my body and feelings
Never Almost always